THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP page 15

It has been said that no relationship is perfect. This is probably true as perfection may well be unattainable. But all relationships are on a gradient scale of perfection.

The gradient scale would look like this. Take a line and draw it across the page with perfection at one end mediocrity in the middle and substandard at the other end.

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Perfection           Mediocrity           Substandard

Although perfection is an ultimate, it is a statement of how life would be if there were no life factors involved.  Perfection is not where I expect you will end up but rather something to work towards. 

Use the following definitions.                                                    perfection: somebody or something that reaches the highest attainable standard.                                                              mediocrity: a quality that is adequate or acceptable, but not very good.                                                                                     substandard: below the expected or required standard of quality.

Now each of you identify where your relationship is on this scale today by putting an “X” on the scale. Good.

Now each of you put a zero “0” on the scale for where your relationship was when it first started.

Now take a look at the future. If you continue on the current path with your partner, what will your future be like? Fast forward 10 years and be brutally honest. Where will it be on this same scale? Put a “Z” on the scale for where you will be in the future. Is it getting better with time? Will it be full of love and many happy memories and moments? If so, this is terrific. If not or if you have room for improvement, then you are on the right path (by using this book’s program)

RELATIONSHIP FOUNDATION page 22

If you are not getting what you want from your relationship, then try putting more into it. Many people when they are not getting what they want start to withdraw. They give up. If you retreat the distance between you will increase. What else could happen? Putting less into your relationship is exactly the wrong thing to do.

START page 13

How can you start to create this better future? Begin now. This book is a good start. What is the point of waiting? If you answer you will do it tomorrow, I would say I do not believe you. The hard fact is if you can not commit to this now, will you ever be able to? Make the decision to go into the future together -- holding hands.

TOMORROW page 89

It is your life. Write it with a happy ending.